Why many men like to have affair with married woman?

It is well known fact that nowadays many men both bachelors and married men enjoy having affair with married woman compared to spinsters. Throughout my working lives and personal lives I have come across a thousands of such pairs. The reasons are very plain obvious. For those who thought that we do not know let me disclose to you. They are :

1. Relatively married women appeared to be more cheerful and lively compared to spinsters. Who will not be cheerful when one can boast about having a family i.e. husband, children , etc.

2. If the man were to have affair with a married woman, it requires less commitment. Less time and attention are also needed because the woman too will have to spend some time with her legal husband.

3. After the "project" the man can very easily wipe his buttock and wear pants and go off happily. Less string attached and less stressful.

4. Like the Chinese saying goes, "Stealing food taste more delicous". Likewise affair with married woman enhance the thrill and excitement more compared to having affair with spinster.

5. An affair with married woman also serve as less chances of contracting HIV compared to with prostitutes.

6. In case if the woman conceive the baby, it can very easily become the legal husband' child. One don't have to waste a single cent to pay for maternity bills or the chore of rearing the child up.

7. By having an affair with married woman, it need to be in the dark thus has more chances and also easier to flirt around with some other woman. Easier for man to have more partners simultaneously.

8. It is also a boost to the man's ego when he can successfully sleep with other man's wife.

9. The chances of married woman ability to win the man's heart is higher because they have already successfully hooked one man to married them.

10. In this modern age now, adulterous is already a norm, especially where they can easily meet and understands each other through work place or even some through being business partners initially.

11. The affair will be more attractive if the legal husband of the woman is rich high flyer. The man can happily announce Mr so and so's wife is my very "close friend, our relationship is sheer platonic, bla bla, bla".

12. Should the man happen to be also married, this will heighten the relationship further because both have common background- same marital status. Thereby more to exchange or talk about.

Please leave a comments if I have missed out any other reasons for these affairs.

Straits Quay, Penang

Another new beautiful place in Penang. I snap them with my handphone camera, that is why there are not that sharp. I will be visiting this place again after the harbour is completed. The light house is really very attractive. There is also a long windy path which is very suitable for evening walks and couples walks and dens.

Wednesday 29/12/10

The night is cold. So cold that I really think that fan or air-conditioner is not needed completely.
Two more days to year 2011. Another year has passed by. My life has nothing interesting to relate. Maybe spirituality is what I really need besides money for survival. You may query me what about friends and relatives. None of them is really closed with me . Too bad. Or maybe I m not good enough to find one, nobody knows.

In my life I have never celebrated english calender New Year before and I foresee the same goes to the far foreseeable future. The same year goes and come. Isn't it like this every year?. What a big event, I know not. Nothing new as I have gone through so many many years before.

Wish that I may upgrade myself so that I can survive still. Besides these I have lots of dreams, fantasies, funny crazy fantasies that never materialise at action level. Hahahahhaa.

Sun 26/12/10 - online diary

Today is the happiest day of my life. No, I did not strike any lottery or Magnum. Neither did I get marry, get promotion or any romances and still financially poor.

I am happy because the time passes extremely fast. I have no worries, no stress and not a slight trace of tiredness. I am happy just being. I have learnt the art of let go and forgetting those that I suppose to forget. I listen with one ear and let out whatever that is useless in another ear. The present is so soothing and peaceful. The secret is that I have learnt not to demand limited desire and happiness; i.e. let go. ("What a big deal?", "so what" just to name a few) is what I should always be telling to myself.

Wish that I may able to sustain this elevated stage of mine forever.

Lighting up the "light'

"No wonder your life is like a shit, somebody as good as you deserve something much better." this is what any feng shui master or fortune teller will be telling me because my lanterns are not light up. The lanterns signify the star or luck. After many years, finally I decided to test it out. See how nice the electrician has fixed for me all the wiring and installation. So my life should be "ignited" now with full life force energy.

So I guess, anything that happen in the future related to me will be good or the best. Farewell to the lousy bitter past.

Tusday 21/12/10 - online diary

The clock shows 10 mins to nine o'clock. The weather is cooling. I am already getting feeling sleep although I have so much house works yet to be completed. Everything is in order and I have nothing to report, both good news neither is bad news. Because I have already mastered the art of acceptance. Wish that it could be better. I am see without seeing and hear without hearing.

Nothing is new i.e I have lots of dreams and none of them is ever fulfilled. Still I tolerate it silently. I don't remember having any really happy moments. Possibly that was too long ago to recall. It always do me good if I shut off my mind and fall asleep. That's why I am sleepy. Good night and sweet dreams.

Sat 18/12/10 - online diary

The night is cooling as the whole day was drizzling. When i look out from my house, i can see lines of cars jammed along the road. Seems that many people are coming out at night to enjoy themselves, possibly shopping for the coming festival, or having dinner. How come I am excluded?? Wish that i were also one of them having fun right now.

Being just come back from my meditation. I have my only meditation to give me comfort from the harsh worldly matter. So many things bring sorrow in this world how come so many people are living in such luxury happy life but not me. How come???, Too bad.

18th Dec is my blog 2nd anniversary. Cheers to my blog. May there be many years anniversaries to come.

Happy Pre-2nd Anniversary - 18 Dec

This coming 18th December 2010 is the second anniversary of my least visited blog. Time flies. Really, seems like it was only yesterday. I would enjoyed more of blogging if i have more readership.

Two years ago when i informed my colleagues and acquaintance the name of my websites, none of them were interested. Very disheartening. Useless people. Never mind with Project Petaling Street back again, i may ping my writing to hopefully increase my readership.

I have so far in these 2 years less than 5 readers. The page readers are many times visited by my self. Anyway few readers also unable me to stop blogging. Because I have just accepted it as such.

The year is coming to and end. I have no interest to make any resolution because none of dreams and wishes are fulfilled and never will. So I just let go by. New year come and old year goes, nothing is new. It repeats again and again. Everything is "how seow". "How seow" is my local dialect meaning "illusion and mirage:"

A weekends outings

I have the chance to follow my spiritual organisation went for a bungalow stay at Ayer Itam, Penang. The bungalow is situated in the heart of the jungle of Ayer Itam, so hidden from the roadside. The whole 3 days were raining non-stop. I like and enjoyed myself there. We had spiritual classes, videos show, and some games there. There were about 30 of us there. The most happiest thing is that I have a room on my own, no sharing with anyone else. Not easy to sleep if people are around.

It was really something not wasted. My thinking were slightly different if I had not known them.

Miracle cure of "Fong Hwang"

The mandarin word "fong hwang" (phoenix). If you use your chin to write these 2 chinese wording of fong hwang, it is believed that one's stiff neck and upper part back ache may be minimised until healed. Sometimes the upper part of the back may feel pain due to our right hands are for writing, chopping vegetables, meat or working.

I am now practising them. When our chin is writing these wording, our neck do stretch and loosen the tighten muscle. It needs no money why not try it.

Sources : from one sifu from China

The Most Stupid Question - Why aren't you marrried?

My friend an elderly lady in her sixties was so furious today that somebody asked her "Why you didn't get married?" She can accept if people ask her if she is married or not but not to the extent of asking "why" or "how come" she is not married.

The person who asked that question is really very stupid and has no brain to think of why of the reasons people are not getting married . I can think of 13 (thirteen) reasons people not married off-hand, she can't - Damn stupid brainless or purposely wanted to know more in detail. The reasons of people remain single are as below, ; possibly

1. He or she is a gay or lesbian.

2. The person he or she wanted so much is married to some other person.

3. The person may be betrayed by his or her g/f or b/f, before thus he/she lose confidence in future relationship.

4. The ratio of 7 women to 3 men. Meaning in every 10 persons; 7 are women & 3 are men, thus you can have only 3 couple in this situation instead of 5 couple per every 10 persons.
(the balance 4 women will be deprived of the chance to get married)

5. The luck aspect, you may be a lady doctor and yet unable to find a good husband for example. Not everybody has the luck to be tackle or spotted by any prospective spouse.

6. The destiny aspect, not everybody is destined to be married.

7. Physically handicap or with disease, majority of the people will not choose a handicap spouse if given a fair chance.

8. The financial aspect, to mix with people, one need money for personal grooming, spending for travelling for example. - Not able to afford financially.

9. Some people are not able to cope up the heavy stress of dating.

10. Some people are unwilling to legalise their relationship or their sexual activity.

11. Some people's parents are too selfish that they discourage their children from marrying.

12. Some people especially men feel that they can buy sex from prostitute thus no need to have those hassle and responsibility of getting married.

13. That person's love is never reciprocated, therefore he/she is being left alone unfortunately.

Have I missed out any any others reasons, please inform me by leave some comments.

Breakfast for one on 9/12/10

The day was raining. I don't feel like going to the wet market to buy breakfast. Therefore I fry my own simple vegetable fried bee hoon. With some chye sim, beansprouts and 1 pc of beancurd i had it done. Never forget about garlic. One plate is easy to fry. Four and above are harder.

"Passionate" Vegetarian Char Hor Fun

Cooking like many other action/activities has to come with passion to get the best result. Food taste better when cooks with passion relatively. The prove of it is that children love their mothers cooking.

Since this is a very common dish almost everybody knows the ingredients for vegetarian Char Hor Fun, I just download the pictures. Char Hor Fun blends well with a cup of coffee.

Happiness Formula

I have listen to this video nearly 10 times or more. Never mind about his looks, or his Indian accent, whatever he says makes sense. Worth listening.

Happiness (H) = Set point in the brain (S) + Condition of living (C) + Voluntary choices (V)

H = 50% S + 10% C + 40% V

The interesting point is that there is also a clause of human being complicated. We have existential unhappiness. We have grievances, resentment of the past. We worry of infirmity, old age and death.

It is certainly worth listening to this Deepak Chopra's videos

Sun 5/12/10 - Body Detoxify

Today I have fruits for my meals lunch and dinner. The purpose is that I want to detoxify my body and also I do not need to cook. Thus I have more time to do what I like or rather what I should do. Lots of petty cleaning, touch up and clearing of waste, need to be done.

The weather is cloudy from morning till evening. The bad thing is that none of my bedsheets, clothes are able to dry up. I hate the foul smell of the wet clothes. No choice.

A few festival are coming near eg Xmas, New Year and Chinese Year are all on the way. These can be seen from decoration from all supermarkets, and even the wet market are more crowded than middle of the year.

One small happy announcement is that I had stopped playing Facebook game since mid of Aug 2010. Goodbye Pet Society, Restaurant City, Happy Island. Goodbye, they have wasted enough of my time. I was hooked on them for 1 year exactly.