My phobia for the single, married, divorcee and widower

On and off I have been asked and requested to attend single club similar like the one organise by the MCA Cupid Club by some married colleagues uncles and aunties. Maybe their intentions are good and well intended for me to find a life partner, some maybe just jokingly expressed.

No matter what their reasons may be, I shall not be attending such single club or the MCA Cupid Club. Knowing and understanding very well that we select the partner and vice versa (people also watch and choose us ) this by itself is already creating very stressful situation. So much so that it is not much different from jobs interviews. This scenarios is just like interviewing for the post of prospective boyfriend, girlfriend. I have to stay away from such draining energy play.

The singles

Just ask yourself, if he or she is good especially the men (Because the ratio of women population to men is bigger) why does he still needs to be at the Single Club. Women of today will have chased after him (women of this century are very daring) or he will be gentlemen enough to find his own girlfriend. High probality is that he is rejected due to his ugliness or any bad habits or character of him. Would you still be happy to receive "rejected goods" . Oh no, i wouldn't want to know of such man, i can't and won't be able to change him anyway.

The divorcees

If he or she is so good, do you think his or her spouse would be willing to divorce him or her. and to release he or she to somebody else. This cannot be. This is another discouraging categories.
If a man is bad to his first wife, the chances is that he will not be good to his next wife. Unless you are those lucky to have have those powerful authority to tame him. or maybe your astrolgy and him matches well. In addition who knows maybe he still have very close relationship or secret affair with his ex-wife much to your chagrin. This too another tiresome try.

The widower

Worst, what if he still in love with his wife and compares you every way with his late wife.

The married man

This category of course is a no-no. Because his priority are always his wife and his family. You will just have those minor left over balance of his time and attention.

On top of this what about the hygiene aspects, any venereal diseases which even the doctor cannot detected during its initial stages.

The human virtues aspect, compassion, consideration, interest, manner are all to stressful and drain of energy to get to know of. And also what is there to talk about or exchange between new founded friends or acquaintances. This is another stressful situation that really wear you down.

In the end after hearing my side of story, my colleagues finally gave up. One blamed me as a pessimist. It is logic, isn't it? or is that my heart is closed. No, no............