Surviving through hard times - comparison

My mind is never void.  It is very active, never ending thinking and wondering all sorts aspects of live.  One of the many thinking I am wondering is which of these lossess are most sad.

1. The lost of a husband through being  taken away by other woman  i.e divorces, or maybe by death  through sickness or accident.

2.  The lost of a job 

3.  The lost of a son, through sudden death, accident

4.  The lost of a wife , either by following another man or maybe death.

5.  The lost of huge amount  money  through scam investment.

6.  The lost of boy-friend /girl-friend through a switch of the heart by the person.

How much we grief about any of them are based on how much we place importance of any of  them

Those criterias are the amount of importance we place on them, the amount of love, the amount of affinity we have towards the object of lost.  To one woman she may place a career  her major importance  far more crucial than the lost of a son.  A son or child can be borned again if she is still within the fertile age. 

Lost of job has a lot to discuss  A normal job with a fair  wage pay for a fair wage job.  In most cases people do not like to resign unless in extreme situation where the person is asked to leave either directly or indirectly.  Some will advise that "well it is only  a job,  maybe it is a blessing in disguise when the person found a new opportunity or new talent in their future job".  Or maybe time to retire for good to rest happily ever after.  This  will depend on the financial standing on the person, the economic  and social situation.   In some instances it could be the worry of the next meal, then this will be worse or equal to the lost of a member of a family.  Life is normally tough.

The lost of a husband may be found again by replacing someone better in termsn of more  caring and more wealthy.   On the other hand she may be happier too if the husband is a sadist or is good for nothing chap always finding fault at home. Or possibly she too has a secret boy-friend behind her husband.  These too are all mysteries of life.

However to another person, their family is the first priority, the lost of a husband or son is almost the end of her life.  It may takes years for heal to recover her grief.  This is more so if she really loves her husband so much and has no intention of living alone and has no potential to find someone else.

So it is all arbitrary.  Different people feel  differently.   The dept of the feelings is not easy to quanitfied.  Like the case of lost of money through scam investment.  This too depends on the amount  and also the remainder money that that person still has on hand  and the amount of risk he/she willing to take. 

All in all, they are all loses in various types and down moment of one's life.